Soften the base. Leave the cream cheese (and butter, if using) at room temperature for 20–30 minutes so it blends smoothly.
Prep the grapes. Rinse and dry them well.
Halve or quarter them so they’re bite-sized and don’t water down the spread.
Blend the creamy layer. In a mixing bowl, beat the cream cheese, yogurt or sour cream, and butter until smooth and fluffy.
Add the blue cheese. Crumble in the gorgonzola. Stir gently to keep a few small chunks for texture. Avoid overmixing.
Season and brighten. Add lemon zest, lemon juice, honey, and a few grinds of black pepper.
Taste and adjust. If it’s too sharp, add a touch more honey; if it’s too rich, add a splash more lemon.
Fold in the grapes. Gently fold in most of the grapes and herbs. Save a small handful for topping so the spread looks fresh and inviting.
Finish with texture. If using nuts, fold them in now.
They add great crunch and pair beautifully with the cheese and grapes.
Chill briefly. Cover and refrigerate for 20–30 minutes to help it set and let the flavors mingle.
Serve. Transfer to a shallow bowl, top with the reserved grapes and herbs, and drizzle with a thin line of honey. Add a final crack of pepper.